Tag: friendship

Exceptional Mom Escapes And New Adventures

 

The other day while sitting doing a “Hamann Experience” in a local spa with a friend, letting the warm water in the Jacuzzi style tub soak away the stress on my body and enjoying a good catch up conversation with her, I realized how far I’d come. By that I mean that two years ago I would have felt so guilty slipping away to do this while Michael was at school and his Dad was at work. I would have admonished myself “you should be at work too, writing, networking for your business, reading, cleaning.” I would have felt so guilty doing anything that included taking care of myself. I would have used different words, of course. They would have sounded like proper things to do, whereas taking care of me was WAY down on the list. It wouldn’t have mattered that this was reasonably-priced, even as short as a year ago, I would have had to do some convincing to indulge in some self-care after a hectic and busy Spring Break with Michael at home. I had fun catching up with my friend in a beautiful environment that didn’t break the bank. This set the tone for that entire day and my entire week of being back in the swing of life and my business and things have only started looking up from there. l have Michael to thank. Once again my desire to be as strong an advocate, parent and example for him is helping me learn how to be strong, happy and relaxed myself.

The fact that I am able to do outings like this once in awhile, along with my weekly and bi-monthly writers’ meeting and monthly meet ups with friends for coffee, shows me that my body, mind and soul are aligned with what I need to live a full and happy life and teach Michael to do the same. It’s so important when you realize that the once impossible is not only possible now, but that you are doing it and living what you want to live. And isn’t that exactly what we are trying to teach our Exceptional Children? We are trying to show them that nothing is impossible, and that with small changes, trying new things every day, the once difficult things to indulge in will come as naturally as breathing itself. My changes for me at first happened hourly, then daily, weekly and then the changes became part of my life.

Exceptional Parents, what changes do you need to make in your life or what changes have you made that show you how far you’ve come? What changes has your Exceptional Child made that show you the same? Remember, each day doing something a little different towards your goal, be it more attention to self-care, a family or friend, a business, means going easy on yourself and taking it slow. These are the same lessons you can teach to your Exceptional Child so that they too can realize their goals and have long term success. Until next time.

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The Beauty of Renewed Affection: Exceptional Love Lessons

Talking with Michael after school and seeing my little guy making jokes  with me, I was reminded of what was really important yesterday afternoon. My son shows me this every day for at least a few minutes, if not longer. Lately, it’s been for longer periods of time which is a great thing. I am remembering how symbiotic a parent and child can be when they are on the same wavelength. When the parent finds a way to reach their child at their deepest emotional core, there is nothing better than this. I am experiencing this with Michael now once again. I can feel that he sees I truly understand him and want to help him. And I see that he feels the same with me. He wants to please me, wants to be close, and get along. He is physically affectionate with hugs and kisses, and when he needs his space, he’ll tell me “no Mommy, I don’t want help. I’m a big boy. I’ll take care of it.”

Sometimes as Exceptional Parents of our Exceptional Children life feels a little bit like a battlefield. You are are at war, but you don’t know why. You are at odds and not symbiotic with each other, and instead it feels like you are enemies with your child.  It’s not usually due to one person being completely wrong either. Like among two adults, various tensions and misunderstandings ensue and cause hurt feelings. Sometimes one of you is tired, sick or worried about something, and you lash out at your loved one. Sometimes both of you. You know, the “kick the dog syndrome”, for lack of a better phrase. As parents, when we are the exhausted, sick and/or stressed ones, this is easy to forget so we lash back at our kids. It’s an all too human reaction. Our kids feel our love, but also our distance. It’s important we remember to be present for them, but first it means being present for ourselves and nurturing that part of ourselves that needs nurturing.

I always say Michael is raising me to be the best person I can. He is showing and reflecting back to me what it is to be patient, calm, positive and persistent. It is not always easy to be all of these things. Sometimes it is near impossible, but I have learned that when I cannot be strong, I need to admit that to myself and to Michael. I need to take my time alone to compose myself, breathe, and then when I am positive and able to see the light at the end of the tunnel, slowly get Michael to start seeing that light again too. We both know it’s there. Sometimes it’s challenging to navigate in the darkness, but I know that with prayer, meditation, and looking for signs from the amazing people around me, I am able to find out what are the next steps to take in growing with my little boy.

Exceptional Parents, what surprises have you learned from your Exceptional Children after you’ve been through a tough time with them, either short or long term? How have they surprised you with what they have wanted and needed?  For instance, I see that Michael has been needing more affection and attention for positive things. Children are always learning and growing themselves, and they take us on that journey with them, if we are so lucky to follow the signs around us. Until next time.