It has been one of those weeks, heck, months where the craziness in all shapes and forms has been ensuing. Some days have been happy crazy and others, just crazy with exceptional family life. But I’ve noticed, like most parents, that when I’ve handled things the best, has been when I have cultivated moments of calm and rest for me. Some days it has been easy to get in some personal time. Other days it has been challenging, but even if I only found ten or twenty minutes that day to do something that filled my cup, so to speak, energy-wise, the difference in how I handled anything chaotic was incredible.
Sometimes Michael will be an energetic handful talking non-stop. Other days he is angry and anxious. In both examples I need to stay calm, focused and alert, in order to be able to truly be there for him and support or redirect him towards making better choices. I have my set of tools that help me stay grounded and focused, and when I use them, I never have issues with mental exhaustion or burnout. Here are a few things that I can squeeze into a busy parenting day.
1) Shorter guided meditations and/or yoga workouts: There are great resources on line where you can find meditations and yoga workouts that range from 10-30 minutes and beyond. This is an easy way for me (and a lot of Moms I know) to recharge their batteries.
2) Sitting on the couch with a cup of coffee/tea with quiet music: Curling up on the sofa for a 10-15 minute relaxation/recharge with coffee/tea and music helps get me through some tough moments in the late afternoon or early evening helps reset my batteries as well.
3) Chilling or working in my home office: As a writer, my office is my sanctuary. That is where I do most of my work, but I will even retreat to my office if I need personal space when I want to go on social media, check email or read a book. Having a room we Moms can go to means the world when you’re running on empty. If you don’t have a whole room, carve out a corner of a room and make it cozy for you, pillows, candles, warm blanket etc.
4) Take a short walk: If you can, get outside or inside a mall and take a short walk. If you have a treadmill or exercise equipment get moving. It will help you face whatever exceptional parenting will throw at you.
5) Talk to a friend by phone, social media or text: Sometimes a short conversation with a friend will go a long way. It doesn’t have to be another exceptional mom. Any caring friend who gets you and your life will help you refocus your energies.
Exceptional Parents, what are your tips for finding those mini moments to recharge? In the end, as long as you still see you have patience, compassion and trust in yourself as a parent, you will be able to reflect that back to your child and they will be the better for it too. Until next time.