I am a recovering chance a holic. Yes, that’s right. I was a woman who used to be afraid to take chances like ago. I liked to play it safe. Do what felt predictable and not make waves. And then I had an exceptional son, and life became anything BUT predictable. Kids turn your world into an unpredictable whir of constant activity, but having a child with special needs is that unpredictable whir and then some. At the beginning of the journey, you question your stability, your sanity. You wonder if you can handle raising a child who is nothing like you expected. You also wonder if you have the strength to raise yourself at the same time, because parents, we all know our children raise us if we are paying attention. That means they teach us life lessons that go so much deeper than the every day. And if we are paying attention, we learn what we have to change in ourselves to do not only the whole parenting thing, but the whole living thing better.
This evening I was talking to Dad about this. We were talking about how Michael was changing and growing and needed new challenges, new things to help him grow. I confessed to Dad that I was feeling the same way. I was growing. I needed new things to help me break out of old unproductive patterns of thought and living. I was ready to shed the old fears and take on my dreams full throttle. I was learning how to let go of things and people I couldn’t control and control what I can, my thoughts and my emotions alone. This was something I was in the process of learning, but yet I was teaching this to Michael. That’s ok. We’re learning and growing together, I thought, though as the adult, I am usually one step ahead.
It’s important when we are learning as parents, to pass on the message of teaching to our children, and helping them see better ways of doing things and being true to themselves. Yes, there are obstacles in all our lives. But we need to be strong enough to say that we can overcome them with small positive changes we make in our life everyday. We have to teach our children that this is possible, and help them see that they are truly a miracle of life, love and perfection. They need to find what makes them happy and go for it. Then, we as parents, need to encourage that energy and help them.
Exceptional Parents, how often have you been afraid to take a chance and try something new for yourself or your child? What do you have to lose by trying? Remember, life is lived by taking chances, seizing opportunities for growth wherever they come, and learning from our mistakes when things do not go well. Teach your child to celebrate all in their story. It will help carve out the incredible person they are meant to be. Until next time.
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