I miss the days when Michael was predictable and when I, as his Mom, could make all his decisions. My life had so much stress in many ways, but was easier to understand in others. Now, I have what I have been praying for- a young man who is responsible for making his own decisions, good and bad, only sometimes they are not the right ones in my book. He will fall. He will get up. He will start over. Sometimes not. And I need to be ok to step back and let him do it. But boy, is it hard. There is a huge weight off my shoulders when I realize HE is the only one who can decide on his course of action and suffer the consequence or get the benefit. I am only a guide to show him a healthy way to grow.
On the positive side, I am seeing a maturity in Michael that I have never seen before. I am seeing him handle disappoint better than ever before. I am seeing him ask for more responsibility at school, and at home for more space. No more, “play with me Mom,” it’s now, “I want to listen to my music and call my friends. Take me somewhere please so I can navigate or look at video games.” He will turn to me to share confidences and ask questions. There are lots of questions. Still, peers play a HUGE role. I am both grateful and worried, as he will do anything for his friends. This is the time to show him how he needs to make sure he is following good examples, not bad ones, all the while avoiding the teen temper outbursts that will occur from time to time. My little boy is becoming a man in body and spirit. He is grappling with other neurological challenges and physical ones at the same time. I have never needed patience and serenity more than I do now. I rely on God and the wonderful people he has surrounded me with on my journey, to help guide Michael on the best possible path. Yes, he is still learning how to find his way, as his mother is learning to navigate.
Exceptional Parents, are you grappling with a major age milestone change right now with your Exceptional Child? Remember, stay calm. Express unconditional love to them. Listen to what they have to say, and just be there to show them how to be a positive light in the world. In time as they grow, they will find their own vibration and what it means to be themselves. They will also learn how to love themselves for who they are. Until next time.
I am a writer, speaker and parent coach. I blog about how my exceptional son with Autism, ADHD, OCD and Type 1 Diabetes is raising me to a better human being and exceptional mom. My mission is to empower other exceptional parents to trust in their parenting instinct while letting their exceptional child open their eyes to all that is possible! For more information on my coaching services and to download a copy of my FREE EBOOK “5 WAYS TO HANDLE EXCEPTIONAL FAMILY ANXIETY” see my website, http://www.creatingexceptionalparenting.com.