So I’ve mentioned Michael is in puberty. It has been an interesting journey as his Mom with lots of ups and downs. What continues to amaze me though, is how perceptive he is. Yes, kids who are exceptional can experience crushes, sexuality and have questions like any child would. Some will be older asking these questions, but some peak early. My advice is be ready to answer the questions the same way you would have if your child did not have special needs. Keep language simple. Stay calm and let them know you are there for them. Michael has progressed from asking questions about puberty, to asking why his body behaves how it does, to crushes, to sex, and everything in between. There is still a lot of of innocence in his questions and he is happy with simple answers. For now. I am ready for the more complex questions though. I have been formulating for awhile what to say, and am getting ready with some good articles and books that will fill in the blanks that may be hard for me to explain. This is especially true as I am a female explaining male sexuality to my son.
We are also lucky that Michael has a male teacher this year and a lot of male support staff. I know they will help fill in any blanks I have been unable to fill in. I was surprised so far how easy it has been talking to Michael about puberty, sex and grown up feelings. I’m sure there will be times it will challenging in the future, but as long as a parent remains truthful, honest and calm, it can be a very informative exchange. Like in the past, I was amazed about how he can understand certain concepts. It’s really good I stopped underestimating what he knew and where he would be at a long time ago. This way I am ready to meet him where he is, and share what I know to guide him lovingly to answers.
Exceptional Parents, are you stuck helping your Exceptional Child through a difficult or challenging time, whatever the subject is? Are you amazed how much they know or want to know? This is why it is a called a spectrum. Your child will continue to shock you with what they know and want to know. They will also shock you with what they understand. Sometimes your explanations will be clear. Sometimes they will not understand and ask for clarification. That’s ok. You will figure out what to say. As long as you are honest with what you know, how you feel about them, and what information you are willing to uncover to fill in the blanks, it will help bring you both closer together. Most importantly, they will learn to trust how their brain works and that asking questions to someone who loves them unconditionally is the best way to learn. Until next time.
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