Our family has been blessed to have had wonderful teachers for Michael since he started at his adapted school at age four and a half. Even before, he had an amazing experience at his pre-school with equally incredible teachers. All I can say, is that Michael’s teachers have not only supported him, they have supported me. They have helped me learn tools for the home to help him be more at ease. They have showed me ways to operate more calmly and effectively in the home, and finally, they have showed me a side of my child that I may not have seen previously: his ability to be independent, to plan, to socialize, to try new things.
It’s not that Dad and I did not challenge and stimulate him. I think we did all we could and all we can now. He is involved in many activities and regularly gets out in the community with us to stores, the library and other places. But school ends up showing a parent a different side of their child. They show the parent what the child is capable of in a group setting. They show the parent that the child likes challenges or needs more of them if they are struggling. Finally, a good teacher works with the parent as part of the team. As I always say, “Team Michael” is composed of his teachers, his therapists at school, his therapist and doctors on the home front, and us, his parents and the rest of the family. If we all collaborate and work to help him grow stronger and more confident, we are doing our job. If we don’t communicate as effectively, his coping ability will suffer.
I have seen a huge maturity and change in Michael over the last year, particularly in how he is managing his anxiety, aggression and stress. I know that the tools he has learned from school, the various therapists he has worked with at school and at home, as well as medication and maturity have made a huge difference. This makes me see how the whole has to be in the parts in order to have results that will make everyone come out the winner.
Exceptional Parents, does your child have the right team for them and their needs? Are their teachers on the same team as you and are you on the same team as them? This is of utmost importance if the child is to succeed. Have a plan of action in place with your child’s team and make sure that you all want what’s best for your child- to be happy, healthy and safe living up to their full potential. Until next time.
I am a writer, speaker and parent coach. I blog about how my exceptional son with Autism, ADHD, OCD and Type 1 Diabetes is raising me to a better human being and exceptional mom. My mission is to empower other exceptional parents to trust in their parenting instinct while letting their exceptional child open their eyes to all that is possible! For more information on my coaching services and to download a copy of my FREE EBOOK “5 WAYS TO HANDLE EXCEPTIONAL FAMILY ANXIETY” see my website, http://www.creatingexceptionalparenting.com