Two days into the school year and Michael is already teaching me how to be more patient, take chances and be clear in what it is I want to do. Why? Because with all the struggles he has, he still pushes forward. He has moments of discouragement as we all do, but he keeps looking for the positive and will express his frustration when he can’t cope. He will often sound temporarily overwhelmed, but with a kind word from Dad or I he will perk up and say, “really, you believe in me?” Yes, we do. I tell him. You can do anything. Just breathe. Go easy on yourself. Ask for help. And don’t be afraid to make mistakes. We all make them, adults too.
What has really amazed me with Michael, is how perceptive he is as to where he is struggling. He would often tell me when his hyperactivity was out of control, that he needed help to learn to stop and think before acting. I knew the previous medication he was on was not working anymore. It had been prescribed for aggression and he was becoming more aggressive. Since coming off it the aggression had gotten better, but his hyperactivity had become out of control. A new medication is helping a lot now, and I am seeing my happy child focused and more in control. He is able to use the strategies to often think before acting. I am seeing a little more stress in other areas so we are fine tuning, but it is amazing how even when he gets scared he is able to think outside the box and figure out what he needs. In watching Michael do this, it has reminded me that when I have been most successful in life is when I have learned to do this very thing. So now, I am doing my best to think outside the box always in my personal and professional life. You will always find a solution if you apply a little more creativity to a lot of life’s so-called problems.
Exceptional Parents, how has your child surprised you by thinking outside the box? Remember, if we want them to learn to believe in themselves, we first have to believe in them being able to solve their problems with a little help from us. We also have to learn to believe in ourselves being able to solve problems by thinking outside the box. Together, we will all change the world together. Until next time.
I am a writer, speaker and parent coach. I blog about how my exceptional son with Autism, ADHD, OCD and Type 1 Diabetes is raising me to a better human being and exceptional mom. My mission is to empower other exceptional parents to trust in their parenting instinct while letting their exceptional child open their eyes to all that is possible! For more information on my coaching services and to download a copy of my FREE EBOOK “5 WAYS TO HANDLE EXCEPTIONAL FAMILY ANXIETY” see my website, http://www.creatingexceptionalparenting.com.