Back To School- How To Handle Your Exceptional Child’s Fears And Questions

So for us tomorrow is back to school. As usual, Michael is nervous and does not want to go back. This is in sharp contrast to three years ago when he was excited to go back to school. Now, as he says, I don’t like school as I have to work before I play. Before, I played all the time. Still, I know him. Once he gets into the routine of the day, sees the friends who have followed him from previous years into his new class, as well as make new friends, he will enjoy school and many of the subjects he does like- music, art, science and gym.

I am excited, because as most parents agree, our kids need the structure of school. Two months at home is a break for the adults and some kids who are exceptional, but most after about a month need the return of routine and a semblance of work, play and socializing. Unless parents are able to home school and have time to book play dates for their child, this is challenging to say the least . I have seen Michael flourish and grow at school. He has learned many new things. He has made new friends. He has also encountered obstacles which he has learned to solve and troubleshoot. I will be so excited to hear him share his first day of school with her tomorrow.

Sometimes though, the first day of school does not always go so smoothly. How could parents help their child threw it and handle their fears and questions?

  1. Let your child talk: This is important, whether verbally or not. Let them tell you what they fear. They will know they are not alone.
  2. Make sure they sleep well the night before: A good night’s rest can do wonders to handling stress. As much as possible, make sure they sleep well before school.
  3. Remind them how everyone is afraid: If they are scared to go back, remind them that all kids have the same fears. No one is really alone.
  4. Tell them you can’t wait to hear all about their day: Once kids know they have an audience, they will be very excited to share news with you.  Also, have a special first day back to school routine in place.
  5. Remind them that you have their back:  Lastly, remind them that no matter what, you are at the top off their team making sure teachers and everyone understands them.

Exceptional Parents, how do you your children react when it is time to go back to school? Remember, always be encouraging, positive, and tell them to take things one step at a time. If they sense they have you in their pocket, anything is possible. Until next time.

I am a writer, speaker and parent coach. I blog about how my exceptional son with Autism, ADHD, OCD  and Type 1 Diabetes is raising me to a better human being and exceptional mom. My mission is to empower other exceptional parents to trust in their parenting instinct while letting their exceptional child open their eyes to all that is possible! For more information on my coaching services and to download a copy of my FREE EBOOK “5 WAYS TO HANDLE EXCEPTIONAL FAMILY ANXIETY” see my website,

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