How To See Your Exceptional Child’s Strengths During Hard Times

Summer is a very difficult time for exceptional families. Ours is no different. The adjusting from school to being home is a change. Then home to camp is another change. Then camp to home or family vacation is a final change. All of this causes a lot of stress for exceptional kids who suffer from anxiety and for their families. When things are complicated with many different issues that your child faces, you can imagine how hard it is to stay positive as a parent. But staying positive is a must. I learn every summer, through all of Michael’s challenges, that it is when I am calm that I can make the most difference to helping him learn better ways to handle stress, anger and anxiety. I was reminded recently by professionals working with our family and by my own Mommy gut, that I needed to focus on the positive things my child is doing.

Yes, amidst all the emotional chaos and worry Michael is carrying around he is still, hands down, doing some pretty amazing things. He is trying out new sports at camp and liking it. He has earned several beads for his friendship bracelet for cooperation, kindness and a good attitude , but what strikes me most of all, is his willingness to continue doing the things he loves- cooking new recipes, (I am excited he wants to start this up again), playing soccer, trying out new activities, and taking on more management of his diabetes care. When I see good listening, responsibility, creativity in any of these or other domains, I am making sure to praise Michael. He has also started opening up more about fears he has, real and imagined, and is willing and interested to get help to fix what is holding him back. He knows he is stuck. His self-esteem is at an all-time low, and any lifting of it is progress.

On the tough days when he is argumentative and verbally or physically aggressive to us and himself, it has been hold to stay positive, but I find that if I make the effort to look for the positive in a rough day, we will end on a good note. I realize that I may need to do some pruning with therapy for me in the future. As a parent coach and someone that others turn to for help, this is what I owe them to continue being strong for them and their children. I also owe it to myself  too to go from a place of despair and stress, to a place of hope and belief again for me and my child.  I believe I am a good Mom, coach and person. I believe my child can and will conquer his demons. He is a powerhouse, after all. He has overcome so much in his eleven years on this planet, I know he will not fail. It’s getting him to believe in himself and me to stay positive in the darker times that the challenges lie. I am up for it. It’s my child’s future at stake, and I want him to have every advantage possible to believing in himself like Dad and I believe in him. I know he will get there. I see his potential as do those around him. It’s time we get him to see it too.

Exceptional Parents, are you having a hard time seeing the positive or beauty in your Exceptional Child due to severe behaviors, obsessions, anxiety or fear? Remember, your gem, your child is buried under all the baggage. You will get them out. Never stop seeing their light. It is there even in difficult times. Look for the moments they are victorious over their fears, they make you laugh or admit they are at a loss. This means they are coming out of the fog of their fear. You are their anchor. You are the boat they climb into in the wild sea. Never stop believing in their strength to overcome their struggles, and in your power to help them. See the positive in both of you and you will make progress together. Until next time.

I am a writer, speaker and parent coach. I blog about how my exceptional son with autism and type 1 diabetes is raising me to a better human being and exceptional mom. My mission is to empower other exceptional parents to trust in their parenting instinct while letting their exceptional child open their eyes to all that is possible! For more information on my coaching services and to download a copy of my FREE EBOOK “5 WAYS TO HANDLE EXCEPTIONAL FAMILY ANXIETY” see my website, http://www.creatingexceptionalparenting.com.

I am a writer, speaker and parent coach. I blog about how my exceptional son with autism and type 1 diabetes is raising me to a better human being and exceptional mom. My mission is to empower other exceptional parents to trust in their parenting instinct while letting their exceptional child open their eyes to all that is possible! For more information on my coaching services and to download a copy of my FREE EBOOK “5 WAYS TO HANDLE EXCEPTIONAL FAMILY ANXIETY” see my website, http://www.creatingexceptionalparenting.com.

 

 

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