Controlling Impulses-The Challenges for Exceptional Parents and Their Children

It’s been a hard two weeks watching Michael struggle with controlling his aggressive and anxiety-provoking impulses. I’ve been seeing some new stims and compulsions that have flat out scared me. I am not proud that I reacted with anger to some of them, if not at first, then eventually.  I then reigned myself in and both sympathized with Michael and showed compassion for myself. It is not easy handling his anxiety and mine. This made me realized I also have to reign in my impulses as a Mom. I have to learn not to jump the gun and panic when my child does something very weird or potentially dangerous. Yes, I need to react, but I need to do it calmly, and as I said in a previous post, be Buddha Mom.

At the moment, we are not sure if the new medication is helping or harming him. All I know is that for the last two weeks, I cannot leave Michael near food, he will compulsively eat. That is not new, as one of the meds causes an increase in appetite. He also has developed stims that cause him to want to cover up the oven timer or turn it off and on, close drapes not to see my car, and on a walk the other day, he jumped into a traffic lane as he felt he couldn’t stop himself. In between these acts, he is my smart, responsible fun boy, but the impulses to act in silly and dangerous ways has steadily been increasing. This morning he did not want to take the school bus to school saying it may not bring him home. He has had a few bus driver changes, bus changes and time changes on bus, but I’ve never seen him so worked up. Slowly with his team we are looking for answers. In the meantime, I am realizing that it is more important than ever to look at the fun moments we have; a great bike ride we took the other morning, swimming at the pool, and the wonderful way he is making lunches and doing his artwork. The questions he asks and the friendships he has.

Exceptional Parents, how do you handle your child’s impulsivity and your own? Remember, go easy on them and you. You are both under a lot of pressure, and the best way to succeed is to give each other space and time to regulate physically and psychologically before talking things through.  Seek hep for yourself, professional or other if you need it as you do for your child .They need you to be strong. You will find the answers to the problems you are looking to solve in time if you do this. Until next time.

I am a writer, speaker and parent coach. I blog about how my exceptional son with autism and type 1 diabetes is raising me to a better human being and exceptional mom. My mission is to empower other exceptional parents to trust in their parenting instinct while letting their exceptional child open their eyes to all that is possible! For more information on my coaching services and to download a copy of my FREE EBOOK “5 WAYS TO HANDLE EXCEPTIONAL FAMILY ANXIETY” see my website, http://www.creatingexceptionalparenting.com.

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