I am so happy I have rebuilt the bond that has always been there with Michael. Or maybe it never really went away. Maybe puberty just interrupted it a bit, and rocked that boat. Regardless, I am so glad that Michael is opening up, talking to me, and telling me about his world again fully. On difficult weeks like this one, with high blood sugars, hormones and sadness, whether due to medication that needs to be adjusted or other issues, I am so happy Michael is trusting me to tell me about his school day, good and bad, and what he did and did not. I am also glad he is beginning to see that whether or not we have a fight or get along, I love him always. This was so hard to grasp at the beginning last year. I could only imagine what his body was going through, in diabetic shock and puberty, but I digress. Now, I see that he has so much to offer. He is creative, funny, kind. As a friend and student, he is amazing. As a son, he is also out of this world. He has made me open myself up to things I never would have dreamed of doing. He has made me question who and what I am. That is a good thing. I needed to focus on what I am really here to do. Michael also has shown me that no matter how hard things get, I don’t back down. I often will tell him after he has had a bad meltdown, a low or high diabetes episode, a good or bad day, that we don’t give up. We keep moving forward.
I have tried to tell him how proud I am of his strength, his perseverance in the face of his obstacles. I hope he has believed me. Every word was true. Though his impulse control needs serious work and he is his own worst enemy with worrying ( I know that feeling), I also know that his mind, so intricate, detailed, organized and original, will bring beautiful things to the world one day.
I know that I will continue to work hard to help Michael recognize that he can exert lots of control over his impulses. He has the ability to do so if he asks for help, has strategies in place that have worked in the past, and continues to try new things when the old things don’t work. I also will continue never giving up on him, especially when the going gets rough in terms of listening, safety and other issues. He is my number one hero. When I begin to worry I remind myself what I tell other parents. You need to take things one day at a time. Your child will grow and learn and so will you. Then, you will both know what to do.
Exceptional Parents, how do you help your Exceptional Child with impulse control problems? The key is to get them to trust that they have it in them to find strategies that work to calm them down. Once they do that, they can move on from there making positive choices and learning how to relax and focus on the present. Until next time.
I am a writer, speaker and parent coach. I blog about how my exceptional son with autism and type 1 diabetes is raising me to a better human being and exceptional mom. My mission is to empower other exceptional parents to trust in their parenting instinct while letting their exceptional child open their eyes to all that is possible! For more information on my coaching services and to download a copy of my FREE EBOOK “5 WAYS TO HANDLE EXCEPTIONAL FAMILY ANXIETY” see my website, http://www.creatingexceptionalparenting.com