Michael has had high blood sugars all week. This has meant that emotions, physical and psychological have been intense for him, and as a consequence, for us. I learned a lot though. I was reminded by the professionals that we work with, that Michael is dealing with a lot in his life- autism, adhd, type 1 diabetes and puberty. And he is handling it like a champ most of the time. I told him in detail today, as did Dad, how proud we are of him. I don’t think he knows that we are most of the time.
I thought back to me when I was 11. I was starting puberty and it wasn’t pretty. I didn’t have the additional issues Michael has, but I distinctly remember feeling so depressed and not feeling like I was not good and lovable. I had great parents growing up. I still do. But I had this time when all of a sudden, my world started to shift out from under me. I had more moments in my early teens, until I saw that I had options. I spoke to my Mom. I found my circle of friends. I kept a diary throughout high school where I chronicled the good and bad. And as I thought back, I was not facing the challenges Michael was facing, yet I was frustrated, depressed, and angry at times. Wow. This was eye opening. How could I be so hard on Michael when I, a neuro typical tween, struggled with anxiety, self-esteem and other emotions? Having tolerance does not mean forgiving innapropriate behavior and not putting in good behavior patterns. It just means being strong enough to recognize your child’s strengths, weaknesses and help them see it too. Tonight, Dad and I both told Michael why we were proud of him. We are proud of how bravely he is handling diabetes. We are proud of how well he is learning to navigate his emotions and take his medication for adhd and autism and apply the strategies to learn to regulate himself. And we are proud of his talents in cooking, navigation, and music. We want him to know he is special because he has multi talents and enlightens the rest of us in using it.
Exceptional Parents, have you ever had a humbling experience with your child where you learned as much as they did? Remember, acknowledge it to them and to yourself. You are both growing together to better understand each other and what you stand for. Until next time.
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