How To Bond With Your Exceptional Child When Tensions Are High

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Sometimes parents and their children go through rough times. There are miscommunications that lead to misunderstandings and tensions for both of them. The thing is, there are usually simple things to do to figure out how to communicate and get along better with your exceptional child. Here are 5 things parents can do:

  1. Ask them what is bothering them: Yes, if a child is not verbal or has difficulty communicating this one could be a little challenging, but for the most part, a child will give clues as to  what upsets them or what they need.
  2.   Be there to listen to them no matter what: Many times a child, exceptional child or not, acts out when they feel they are not being heard or listened to fully. This is when they test you to see what you are made of. Show them you mean business and are there for the long haul. If you were emotionally absent, own it and apologize. They will respect that and know that you want to change as much as they do.
  3. Make time to spend together. At first they will fight you, but it’s important to make time to spend together to re bond with them. This could be talking together after school or dinner. If that is too intense, try going for a walk, bike ride or car drive with them. They will hopefully start to open up gradually to you telling you what they need.
  4. Make sure you are calm: This is one of the most important ones. Make sure you are calm inside and out, and can handle what is thrown at you literally and figuratively. This is the only way you will be able to deal with things when stress gets high.
  5. Take up a fun activity that is just for the two of you: This is a good thing to do once you have bonded again with your child. Find something that is just a “Mommy/child activity” or a “Daddy/child activity,” and do it with your child alone. This will help cement the bond.

Exceptional Parents, how have you gotten through tense moments with your Exceptional Children in the past? Are you still struggling with this? If so, don’t be embarrassed. All parents have had moments when their children did not like them, and let’s face it, there have been moments parents too did not like their children. This really boils down to not liking with each is doing, not disliking the person. As your child and you start to bond, you will realize that the tensions lie in not communicating properly how you are feeling, and you could start working on ways to change that.  When you do, you will see the love you each have for each other shine through. Until next time.

I am a writer, speaker and parent coach. I blog about how my exceptional son with autism and type 1 diabetes is raising me to a better human being and exceptional mom. My mission is to empower other exceptional parents to trust in their parenting instinct while letting their exceptional child open their eyes to all that is possible! For more information on my coaching services and to download a copy of my FREE EBOOK “5 WAYS TO HANDLE EXCEPTIONAL FAMILY ANXIETY” see my website, http://www.creatingexceptionalparenting.com

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