So tonight was Michael’s first soccer game with his local league. There are always challenges, but this year I had hoped it would be easier for him. It is his third year doing it. He knew the coaches. He was talking with excitement about playing tonight. Yet, when we showed up he still was scared, did not want to play, and insisted on bringing along his comfort toy to feel better. I was upset initially as he had been looking forward to it. I thought it would be smooth sailing, especially after an intense afternoon of talking about his fears and anxieties at school, and then some off the wall impulsive behavior. However, it took some time for him to turn things around. I realized that as I spoke of yesterday, I too am still learning to handle this impulsive behavior in the light of seeing it as truly difficult for Michael to control.
There were some things he said and did which I know were attention seeking, but most are out of his control. He has gotten so good at telling me how he sees things though. Our communication has gotten stronger, and for all his fears of doing something the first time, when he comes around, boy does he give things his all. He has shocked me with expressing interest in trying out playing in a center he had boycotted months ago, and tonight, shock of all shocks, asking about trying catechism at church again in the fall. Wow! I have always known about the roller coaster of emotions he carries around. I admire his strength and resilience more now than ever, as we are finding the right medicine and therapy to help him feel at his calmest. It is helping me find my best balance for me too, what is my balance and what tools I am using that are working or not, so I can practice what I preach as a calm Mom.
Exceptional Parents, how good are you at being the calm in your child’s storm as they manage transitions and difficulties? It’s ok if you aren’t always Zen Mom or Dad. None of us is one hundred percent of the time. The most important thing to remember is that we all can learn from our mistakes and use them as teachable moments for ourselves and our children to become even stronger and closer. Until next time.
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