How Sensory Massages And Physical Activity Can Help Manage Anxiety and Aggression


Spring has sprung. I know this by the weather and by Michael’s  sensory system which is making him want to move more, squeeze more, and has him needing things like sensory massages to balance his nervous system. Sensory massages were the things that saved my relationship with Michael years ago when I could not reach him. He would turn away from me and not seem to want to interact. Massages helped bring us together as he connected with me and I with him during these times. I have talked about Wilbargher Protocol and Qigong Sensory Massage in previous posts. There is training involved by qualified Occupational Therapists and Qigong Certified Massotherapists, but once that is done, the practice is parent-centered, meaning that parents control when their child receives the massage. This is such a worthwhile tool. Your child will be calmer, more organized and better able to handle anxiety and aggression.

Even once the old strategies Michael had for dealing with his problems were not working, these massages helped us connect in a way that we were able to talk afterwards about finding new solutions to old problems. Michael is older now, so he needs more sophisticated tools to handle stress, including medication and other educational tools. But the massage is still part of our routine if he needs it. Meditation music and taking a bath sometimes happen before or after as well. All of this is part of the package our family uses to help Michael feel as comfortable as he can in his own body. Going to the park and doing more physically stimulating things like bike riding and sports help a lot too.

Exceptional Parents, what tools do you use to help your Exceptional Child regulate in the Spring once the warm weather comes? Remember, you need to address psychological, physical and sensory needs to have a whole picture of how your child is feeling. Your job is to help them learn to recognize how best to regulate their own bodies. Once they can do that, real learning and growing can begin. Until next time.

I am a writer, speaker and parent coach. I blog about how my exceptional son with autism and type 1 diabetes is raising me to a better human being and exceptional mom. My mission is to empower other exceptional parents to trust in their parenting instinct while letting their exceptional child open their eyes to all that is possible! For more information on my coaching services and to download a copy of my FREE EBOOK “5 WAYS TO HANDLE EXCEPTIONAL FAMILY ANXIETY” see my website,

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