Ok so I know better. I’ve read, been told, practiced and repeated again to stay away from the mistakes I made to make things worse or aggravate a tough situation. Yet I found myself doing it tonight. Yes, I was tired. Yes, I was needing a break. Yes, I had a weak moment. But, was it ok? Sure it was! As parents, especially Exceptional Parents, we will have moments when we fall, make mistake and either lose our tempers with our child/dren or make mistakes from the past. It is not a crime. We are human like our children. We need to be humbled, learn from our mistakes and move on. Here are 5 things we can learn from parenting mistakes:
- Forgive your stumbles in the dark: Yes, you know better. You’ve told your friends, your family, your partner yet YOU have committed the very mistake. It’s ok. Breathe. You recognized it. Forgive yourself and move on.
- Learn from it: Learn from the mistake like you teach your child to do. Everything good and bad happens for a reason. It is the Universe or God’s way of preparing us for greater battles ahead for ourselves and/or others we are helping.
- See how your child responds: Most kids are happy to see their parents account for their personal mistakes. It makes them feel safe and worthy knowing that Mom and Dad mess up too and can account for it.
- Apologize to your child: A Similar to 3 but taking it a step further. For those of us who really get the “do as I do” analogy, this is where apology matters. If your child sees you messed up and are learning and sorry for it, they will do their best to do the same thing. If they can’t, it’s up to you as the parent to “show” them strategies on how to do it.
- Reflect on what you learned about you in this process: Yes, it is not all bad. When we make mistakes, we as parents learn what we need to fix and improve upon in our own selves. We also can celebrate that we recognize what needs tweaking. I have been doing very well implementing a new parenting plan in my household, but tonight forgot my good intentions and due to tiredness reverted to some old parenting habits which caused some fights in the early evening. I heard the little voice in my head saying no no, that is the old you. The new me took over!
Exceptional Parents, do you have parenting rules that you follow flawlessly or do you sometimes slip back into old habits? Don’t worry. Be patient with your own parenting process as you are with your child’s growth, and good things will emerge on the journey for you and your child. Until next time.
I am a writer, speaker and parent coach. I blog about how my exceptional son with autism and type 1 diabetes is raising me to a better human being and exceptional mom. My mission is to empower other exceptional parents to trust in their parenting instinct while letting their exceptional child open their eyes to all that is possible! For more information on my coaching services and to download a copy of my FREE EBOOK “5 WAYS TO HANDLE EXCEPTIONAL FAMILY ANXIETY” see my website, http://www.creatingexceptionalparenting.com