I’ve done it! For the first time in months, in months, I’m back on my child’s good list. He WANTS to talk to me, hang out with me, and is turning to me to help him handle his problems. No, my Exceptional Child is not regressing. No, he is still trusting in himself and is even making new things and trying out new activities. What is different is his confidence in himself that he can make good choices. That he is a good kid. That his mother and father truly want what’s best for him, even if we are not always his first choice of people to hang out with. I too looked up to my friends at this age, but always knew my parents were in my corner. I’m glad Michael is getting there too with both his parents.
Today, I got another big compliment from Michael, “Thank you for helping me understand how to manage my anger Mommy. I’m so glad you know how to talk to me now too. I love you.”
It was a long road for me to get to this point. I thought I knew everything there was to know about Michael, then with all my years of experience as his Mom, there was still more to learn. It’s funny how I am patient with other exceptional children, other adults, and myself more than I’ve been with Michael. As he has advanced academically, I somehow thought that the other issues would resolve. I somehow thought that the whole diabetes thing would not mix in with his other rigidities and anxieties. But it has and will. He is handling learning how to show us how to handle his very unique way of seeing the world.
On the other side though, Michael has come to terms with his diabetes in a way no other neuro typical child would as quickly, I think. He reminds his teachers , his Dad and I about what he can and cannot eat, when his snacks are, performs the injection setup like a pro, and keeps asking when he can learn how to give himself his injections. He handles low blood sugar nights, like the last two, like a pro. He explains to friends that he will have diabetes for life and that’s the way it is. He is matter of fact. Of course he is sad about it, but he accepts it in a way I did not think he would. Neither did Dad. He is our hero for this, though we don’t want to make a big deal out of it. I will probably start to cry if I do. I get people telling me, “Wow, autism, diabetes, ADHD, poor kid, what else does he have to contend with?” I sometimes feel that. But Michael is no victim and neither am I. We are fierce, funny, off the wall. We are a family that experiments with new things, laughs together and learns together. We will not be labeled. Labels are good to get help, but after that, it’s important to build on personal strengths. That is what will determine personal and family success.
Exceptional Parents, what have been your success tips in reaching your Exceptional Child? In the end it’s about spending time, showing love and acceptance, and being truly present and real with your child that makes all the difference. If you can do that, you are well on your way to bonding with your Exceptional Child in an amazing way. Until next time.
I am a writer, speaker and parent coach. I blog about how my exceptional son with autism and type 1 diabetes is raising me to a better human being and exceptional mom. My mission is to empower other exceptional parents to trust in their parenting instinct while letting their exceptional child open their eyes to all that is possible! For more information on my coaching services and to download a copy of my FREE EBOOK “5 WAYS TO HANDLE EXCEPTIONAL FAMILY ANXIETY” see my website, http://www.creatingexceptionalparenting.com.