Things have been getting easier on many fronts in our family over the last two months, but that does not mean that there are not many hard moments that Michael has to navigate as an individual, and Dad and I have to navigate as his parents as well as all of us as a family. During those challenging hours and days, I now remind myself to look at all the little victories along the way, both Michael’s and ours. For example, we are all learning more about self-care, using strategies to control our more intense emotions, and by seeing the good things Michael does along with the positive things he has accomplished in the last six months, we are learning that we can control the outcome of what will be.
When Michael sees we believe in him, he believes more in himself. He has been disclosing a lot of the negative feelings he has been having quite honestly and maturely lately. When he has his outbursts and loses control, he is also reigning himself in more quickly and learning from his past mistakes.
I like to see how is asking us for help. He is even speaking to the school psychologist when something is bothering him now. Both myself and his classroom teacher have encouraged him to ask when he needs to talk about something stressing him out. It is never good to push emotions down. It is also important to be honest when we are angry, need a break, and need to cry. He is starting to handle all of these types of feelings honestly, and I am proud of him for that.
So the tips I can offer families on how to see the good moments in the hard times go as follows:
- Celebrate any progress your child has made.
- Celebrate the progress you as a parent have made in understanding your child.
- Celebrate how your child catches their mistakes and learns from them, even after the fact.
- Celebrate that the whole family can grow stronger, even from the painful moments.
- Celebrate how your child is opening your eyes up (and the world’s), to what they are capable of achieving.
Exceptional Parents, how many times have you felt down for them and you when your child has had a rough few weeks or months? I’m sure there have been good moments in there if you think back. It’s important to hang on to those good moments as proof of what your child is truly capable of. They have a wonderful spirit and gift that they will offer the world, if only they can be given the chance with the right tools to shine and be their best. It is up to us to remember to show them to shine their light. Until next time.
I am a writer, speaker and parent coach. I blog about how my exceptional son with autism and type 1 diabetes is raising me to a better human being and exceptional mom. My mission is to empower other exceptional parents to trust in their parenting instinct while letting their exceptional child open their eyes to all that is possible! For more information on my coaching services and to download a copy of my FREE EBOOK “5 WAYS TO HANDLE EXCEPTIONAL FAMILY ANXIETY” see my website, http://www.creatingexceptionalparenting.com