On days like today when I can literally see Michael’s brain in action with all his challenges and strengths, I thank God that I have amassed the knowledge I have in learning what I do know about his differences, and that I am still keeping an open mind learning about his other challenges. I also have continued to learn from all the different people on our team that help Michael be all he can be, particularly the new people on our team now.
It is so important that we as parents remember, even at their most challenging, our kids are not trying to be difficult. They see the world differently, and don’t always know what is right and wrong. And even when they do, most of the time self-regulation is so challenging. That is why it is important to help them find the best combination of therapy, stimulation at home, and educational environment that brings out their best. It is also important that we keep learning as their parents about patience with them and patience with ourselves. We can never forget that they will be as successful as they can with our encouragement.
There are days when I just shake my head at how could my kid not get that. He is so smart. Other days it is obvious why he is struggling and my heart breaks for him. The trick is reconciling those two selves and know that at any given time your child is doing their best to cope. This does not mean you let them get away with negative behavior, but you remember that unless they have positive reinforcement, good tools in place, and unconditional love from you, they will struggle even more. As parents, we need to remember that we all learn differently, and to respect our child’s own form of learning, exceptional or not. We also need to adjust our ways of thinking to the way they see the world. This will help us see more of what they need, and less of what they don’t.
Exceptional Parents, do you truly understand your Exceptional Child’s different brain? If not, it’s alright. It’s never too late to join them in how they see the world, whether by reading articles, talking to therapists, other parents, but most importantly, by watching what interests and lights your child up. This is the key to getting in to helping them with the right combination of initiatives to be all they can be. Until next time.
I am a writer, speaker and parent coach. I blog about how my exceptional son with autism and type 1 diabetes is raising me to a better human being and exceptional mom. My mission is to empower other exceptional parents to trust in their parenting instinct while letting their exceptional child open their eyes to all that is possible! For more information on my coaching services and to download a copy of my FREE EBOOK “5 WAYS TO HANDLE EXCEPTIONAL FAMILY ANXIETY” see my website, http://www.creatingexceptionalparenting.com