How An Exceptional Parent’s Calm Can Bring Surprises And Self-Regulation In Their Exceptional Child

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Today was one of those days that started off well this morning, and though there were some bumps in the road this evening, Michael rebounded so well. Why? Well, for one thing he was motivated to get a reward of extra IPAD time, for another his blood sugar finally started coming down (thank God), and for a third, not to toot my own horn, but I stayed calm. Yes, something as simple as not losing my cool when Michael reacted with some challenging behaviors when his sugar was at its highest, made a HUGE difference. At first he and Dad were not getting along, but then Dad adapted this same motto. He stayed calm too, went with the flow, and the evening took a turn for the better.

What did we both learn? It is our responsibility as parents to share our calm demeanor with our children even at moments when things are less than ideal. I also used today to talk to Michael about old strategies we needed to bring back in to help him feel less anxious and stressed, like a daily schedule and daily points to earn rewards, as well as new changes which will be helping him focus better and not be as stressed- like a higher dose of his current medication alongside with some new activities and strategies which we will try. It’s also a bit of a trial and error, as some things will work with your child, some will not. Every child is different, just as every adult is, and we all need to learn to be a little more flexible and allow wiggle room and learning.

Exceptional Parents, when you’ve had a good day with your child, has it been when you’ve been calm or chaotic? I think the answer is obvious. When we feel together and confident in ourselves, that is when our kids naturally feel that calm emanating off us and we are able to put our best parenting foot forward. We also are modeling grace under pressure which is challenging for our exceptional kids, but not impossible. They just need to know you are in their corner with tools, support, pride and love. So today, remember no matter what, show your child the calm in the chaos. In time, they also will be able to emulate this. Until next time.

I am a writer, speaker and parent coach. I blog about how my exceptional son with autism and type 1 diabetes is raising me to a better human being and exceptional mom. My mission is to empower other exceptional parents to trust in their parenting instinct while letting their exceptional child open their eyes to all that is possible! For more information on my coaching services and to download a copy of my FREE EBOOK “5 WAYS TO HANDLE EXCEPTIONAL FAMILY ANXIETY” see my website,


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