How to Balance Giving Time To Your Exceptional Child With Time For You

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It is so important that your Exceptional Child knows you are there for them. The time you spend with them, however much time, needs to be undisturbed, and they need to sense that they matter in every sense of the word, as of course, they do. The way to do this, at least from my personal experience, has been to have a great routine down pat where a certain amount of time per day is spent in parent/child interaction. Michael and I have this time after school when we talk about the day and have a snack together. Though my home/work situation has changed over the years, I have always made our time after school a priority. This is when I listen to Michael’s concerns, am open to hearing about the highlights of his day, and have fun laughing and boding together. The days this goes the smoothest though, are the days when I have recharged my own parenting battery previously.

How do I balance my parenting batteries? It is through regular meditation and yoga, continuing to write my novel and poetry, reading for pleasure, going out to writers’ groups and socializing with my Mom friends, as well as listening to music that fills my soul with hope, joy and love. I also make time for walks, zumba, date nights with my partner, and other ways I can be in nature and recharge my batteries alone by watching favorite shows or taking in a movie. This means different things for different parents, but in the end, it is all about self-nurturing and taking care of oneself. When a parent is strong in themselves, they can better be there for their child as well as show their child as example of strength and beauty at work.

A child will quickly pick up if you are into their frequency, and those kids who are exceptional, will pick up that much faster. Their frequencies are more sensitive and they zone in to moods and people that much more quickly. This means that the onus rests on us to practice better self-care both as an example of using good strategies, as well as being strong for when times get tough with our exceptional child. They will test and get angry when they are feeling insecure and worried. They will also test when they feel they are losing ground with you to show that they have power. This is usually when they feel they have less power than ever. What can a parent do? We can show them where they have power and how they can use it. We can also show them where we have the power and it is ok to trust us as we have their best intentions at heart.

Exceptional Parents, how do you prioritize down time with your Exceptional Child? Do things go better when you have had down time for yourself? Most likely yes, right. It is only when we are feeling whole and calm, that we can help our children feel the same wonderful things inside themselves. Until next time.

 

I am a writer, speaker and parent coach. I blog about how my exceptional son with autism and type 1 diabetes is raising me to a better human being and exceptional mom. My mission is to empower other exceptional parents to trust in their parenting instinct while letting their exceptional child open their eyes to all that is possible! For more information on my coaching services and to download a copy of my FREE EBOOK “5 WAYS TO HANDLE EXCEPTIONAL FAMILY ANXIETY” see my website, http://www.creatingexceptionalparenting.com.

 

 

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