So this afternoon there were a lot of rough patches for Michael and I. As I reflected on this afterwards when he and I had calmed down at bedtime, I realized that the common denominator for both of us had been one thing-tiredness. Both Michael and I had not slept well the night before. Upon realizing this, I became aware that our threshold for stress and handling stressful situations would not be the best. Enter Dad coming home late from work and the same situation was repeated threefold. Fortunately, we all realized that the best thing to do was to go to our separate corners and calm down once we had let out our frustrations. How many times had it taken us to learn this lesson? Quite a few. Yet we learned it as today was evident, and in the end, we even figured out the right equation for each of us. Dad went to finish up some work he needed to get done. Mom caught up on Social Media, and Michael finished his homework calmly and got himself ready for bed with no incident. This was pretty darn good.
Then the work on winding down for the evening began. It went well as Dad and I did our routines and Michael did his. Ok, Mom is still doing her routine now. As a night owl, nighttime is my most productive time so within reason, I stretch the hours as much as I can, especially for my writing. But mainly what I learned was how we all make mistakes when we are tired. We don’t use strategies to handle stress, anxiety, and anger well. We feel overwhelmed more frequently. We don’t ask for help. The areas in our brain that need to work are not always working. Sleep and rest are integral for all parents to function at their best. We save our best for the daytime, but once the evening rolls around, exhaustion kicks in as there is no escaping it if it is plaguing us. Parents, you need to relax, recharge, and rejuvenate if you want to show the best possible example to your child about handling stress post work and school hours. And this of course is the hardest time of the day.
Exceptional Parents, what are the best ways you have for handling stress and exhaustion? What recommendations do you have for other parents? Remember, you need to be able to not take your child’s mood swings seriously when they are tired, and show them the right way to handle stress and exhaustion and learn from their mistakes. If you can’t, they will often surprise you by modelling good behavior to you when given the chance. Give them that chance. Until next time.
I am a writer, speaker and parent coach. I blog about how my exceptional son with autism and type 1 diabetes is raising me to a better human being and exceptional mom. My mission is to empower other exceptional parents to trust in their parenting instinct while letting their exceptional child open their eyes to all that is possible! For more information on my coaching services and to download a copy of my FREE EBOOK “5 WAYS TO HANDLE EXCEPTIONAL FAMILY ANXIETY” see my website, http://www.creatingexceptionalparenting.com.