This week we had two difficult mornings where Michael missed the bus and I had to drive him into school. It was due to long evenings when he went to bed late, and then was dragging his feet in the morning. But I was frustrated that even with a set bedtime routine, Dad and I being available to help Michael with his anxiety, a good behavior and medical help, Michael still finds a way to push the envelope in the bedtime/ wake up schedule. With each passing day, I see how puberty is very much at work. However, I also am learning how when I lose my cool, aka get angry and yell that my morning routine is thrown out the window, that I can learn to be that zen Mom who channels peace and serenity when she is feeling anything but, so at least Michael sees that he won’t get a rise from me when things don’t go as planned. And that is the other thing I have learned. When things don’t go the way I have planned, I can either grin and bear it or scream and rage against the universe. I have learned that the raging against the universe will only bring more pain and stress into a world that is already afflicted enough, but will also make me feel worse and not open to learning from the experience.
This morning, I realized I could learn from the experience how to handle when things don’t go according to plan. I also used the occurrence to teach Michael how he could turn things around to have easier mornings. As I was cleaning the snow off the car and getting ready to take Michael into school and he was inside getting dressed after the bus had passed, I got an idea for Michael to write down minute by minute his evening and morning routine in his phone. Now, this phone is an old one of his Dad’s that has no internet connection or ability to use as a phone. It acts as a watch, and recently for Michael to write things down in the notes section- places he wants to go, things he wants to do. He loved my idea when I told him. So while I rushed to get myself ready to go to work and make my lunch, Michael wrote out his morning and bedtime routine so that he is rested and making the bus on time. Who would have thought this would have occurred to me? But after I finished cursing my lot, I realized- what can I learn from this? Then I got the idea of how Michael could make his life easier by having a schedule that he designed on a device that he is comfortable viewing it on. And then, things turned around for the better.
Exceptional Parents, have you ever had a morning start roughly or a rough patch that you thought could not be turned around? If we look at what we can learn from a negative experience, there is always something positive that can come out of it. Remember, breathe. Make the best of what has happened and know that when you do that, you will see what you can learn from the experience to make things better in the future for you and your child. Until next time.
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