I used to be so afraid of everything. I used to be afraid of taking risks, trying new things, meeting new people, and most importantly, I feared fear itself. Yep. It describes a lot of people. What changed for me? Michael. You see, once you have a child that you have to fight for every step along the way, facing fear becomes second nature. Your Momma tiger is ready and steady at the wheel, and you don’t mess with her. But then there are those moments when life tests you. You get sick. Your child gets sick. You lose a job. You lose a friend. Life throws you such a curveball you are thrown off your feet into the air and don’t know where you will land. This is when if you are brave enough, and not many of us are in the moment, to say, “Ok life give me all you got.” And this is a process. I am only now starting to understand this process. We all have things that make us cringe or frighten us. The sooner we learn to master them, they will no longer master us. For me it has been both holding on to things that I must let go of and learning to trust that the Universe has my back even when I don’t understand what the heck it is telling me.
Now that I am learning how to master my fear, it has been a little easier to help Michael slowly learn to master his. I have great therapy help for him too which also give me new insight. Most of it has been for Michael. Some of it has been for me. What are the triggers Michael is setting off in me when I get upset? What is he unleashing that I am holding on to so tightly? Then the answer came. It was so obvious. Me feeling out of control and not trusting that the Universe and God would give me tools and send me people to help him and me. Let me tell you something parents. The Universe has yet to let me down in either of these areas. It is when I let my control of the situation go and stopped trying to micromanage my son that things have turned out. It is also when I have prayed hard and asked for help in the wonderful parenting community I have experienced out there, that help has come. Hmm. Funny how the two things I have personally struggled with are now things I am able to work through in parenting Michael. There are days I don’t want to work on this. There are days I have screamed in frustration, “I am not up for this anymore. Send me another Mom to take over.” But each and every time the answer comes back, “This is what you are made for. He is made for you and you for him. You can do this.”
Exceptional Parents, are you embracing your biggest fears in parenting your Exceptional Child? Do you feel like giving up sometimes? Remember, reach out and accept that your fears and your child’s are helping you both conquer your weaknesses and become stronger together. Also remember that when you often feel most alone in your struggles as a parent of an exceptional child, is when you are least alone. Listen to the signs around you that will show you how best to help your child and yourself. You and they are worth every struggle and fight. Until next time.
I am a writer, speaker and parent coach. I blog about how my exceptional son with autism and type 1 diabetes is raising me to a better human being and exceptional mom. My mission is to empower other exceptional parents to trust in their parenting instinct while letting their exceptional child open their eyes to all that is possible! For more information on my coaching services and to download a copy of my FREE EBOOK “5 WAYS TO HANDLE EXCEPTIONAL FAMILY ANXIETY” see my website, http://www.creatingexceptionalparenting.com