So we did it. We took the plunge. Dad and I decided to try Michael on a new anti-anxiety medication that our pediatrician prescribed. We started on Saturday night. Of course, it is still early so any kind of “good” thing we are seeing is probably placebo effect, as they say, but we are optimistic. We were told that any kind of changes, good or bad, would probably only make themselves visible after about 2-4 weeks. We are still a long way away from that. Still, I remain hopeful, but also am waiting on pins and needles like so many other parents do. After all, when an adult themselves tries a medication they can feel its effects on their body and brain. When a parent is observing their child, it is different. We cannot know what is going on in our child’s brain. It can be a little scary, particularly for those of us not medically trained. I am glad we have taken this plunge though. It is something we have wanted to try for awhile, though we were not sure. We had a lot of mixed opinions, both professional and personal. In the end, we listened to our parental guts .
There is no one who knows your child better than you do. You will see right away if you made the correct decision or not. And you can always fix something and make changes. I remind myself of this if I feel I took a wrong turn as a parent. Sometimes we need to take calculated risks. We obviously make sure that there is justifiable reason to try certain things. We need to look at our child-how they are feeling, acting, their quality of life. We need to look at the same things for ourselves. To medicate or not is far from an easy decision. It is one fraught with controversy. I have heard parents have all out brawls due to medicating or not medicating. It is almost as controversial as vaccines in the autism community. But you know what, in the end it comes down to one thing- your child’s health. You know what you have tried to help them. Some things may have worked. Some not. Some, like medication, you may be wondering about. No one can tell you what will work for YOUR child whether you choose to medicate or not. I am a firm believer that a parent knows their child best, and if they look and listen to all the input around them, they will make the right choice for their child in the end.
Exceptional Parents, have you ever been at a crossroads with making a decision about your child? Listen to various viewpoints. Read and ask questions, but remember, in the end, trust what your heart tells you. No one knows your child like you do. And no one else loves your child and wants what is best for them like you do. No matter what, you will make the decision that is best for your child in the end. Remember, trial and error means that sometimes you will make a mistake. If so, you will find a way to fix it, and your child will be no worse for the wear. They will sense that their parent loves them more than anything is willing to try whatever it takes to give them more tools in their arsenal. Until next time.
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