So today when I was sitting down after the bus left before I started getting ready for my work day, I realized why lately I have been feeling overwhelmed by motherhood and spending time with Michael. Obviously, our family has been adjusting to all the new things we have had to adjust to, but though I knew it in my mind, I had not really thought of why I was stressed. Then it occurred to me. Oh yes, self-care during this time has been non-existent for me. The more stress we feel as parents, the more we need to take time to nurture ourselves. However, most of us do the exact opposite. We tend to burn the candle at both ends trying to please children, partners, work, family, everyone but ourselves. And guess what happens Moms? It is us who feels the burnout, the resentment, the tears and stress. It is our bodies that fall apart, our minds that explode, our souls that feel depleted. Then, no one wins.
Watching Michael working with a new Educator today who was teaching him about his anger and anxiety building and how he needed to recognize it in terms of numbers, made me realize when was the last time I did this? When was the last time many of us busy parents did this? It’s ok if we didn’t prioritize it in the past. But now that we know, we need to start putting ourselves at the tops of the priority list-right up there with other family members who we care about. Why? Well, because if we burn out, what then? Who will be our child’s best advocate, cheerleader, and caretaker? Also, what kind of life would we lead? Yes, you Mom! You deserve to have fun too. You deserve to laugh, play, experience joy. Actually, not deserve but need to experience this to feel fully alive and teach your child how to feel fully alive. Why? Because that is part of what the Universe has in store for you.
I am a big believer in the Universe or God having a plan for you, your child, all of us. This plan means that we will experience ups and downs on our life journey and that we must be strong to fulfill our destiny and help our child fulfill theirs. Life is nothing if not an adventure, and if having an Exceptional Child has taught me nothing else, it is that this child has helped me see the adventure and the beauty of the journey is even more important than the destination. For all Michael’s anxiety and stress, he will say things once in awhile that helps me open my mind and heart to how I am growing or need to grow. I know I do the same for him. He makes me laugh during the challenges most of the time, and even when I cry, tears are good. They help strengthen me, make me see where I need to heal, and help me help other parents and children on their path to healing. We all have a job and a vocation in this world. For some, the two are combined. For others they are two different things. Still, regardless we are just as much here to help others as be helped ourselves. That is the human mission and condition set in practice.
Exceptional Parents, are you taking care of you? Are you scheduling in time to unwind and explore who you are as a parent and person? If not, it’s time to start. Your child will thank you. Your family and friends will thank you. And most importantly, you will feel so recharged that you will not be able to think anything negative no matter what happens. Your life will unfold as you practice self-care and teach the same skills to your child. Until next time.
I am a writer, speaker and parent coach whose son with autism and Type 1 Diabetes has shown me a whole new way to see the world and embrace the joy of the moment! I believe in empowering parents to trust their own instincts when it comes to their children, and in helping them parent with love, respect and confidence towards their child.
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