Every day our child teaches us something if we let them and are open to learning. This week is what I like to call “Mom Camp” Week. It is busier than ever, requires a lot of juggling of my schedule, can be a little bit on the stressful side, but in the end, is a lot of fun. It is fun because Michael is home with me and we get to do Mom/son activities together. I learn so much of where he is at, and well, we go on adventures together. An adventure with Michael can be as simple as the regular route we take to the park we are going to is blocked due to construction, and Michael verbally tells me a great alternate route to take to it. It can also be a fun pool game I make up on the spot due to Michael not being able to go underwater because of a sore lip. What started out as a problem becomes a very fun and silly afternoon swimming.
Another day we had a little problem that quickly escalated. The pool we went to (we pool hop as we are not members anywhere), did not have the snack bar open. Michael really wanted a snack and had to wait. At first, he was not happy. He really wanted his snack. I told him he’d have to wait and take a chance. We’d paid and we came here to swim after all. He grumbled and complained. I reminded him of the story of the two sisters- one who complained all the time, and the other who made the best of things, that my mother had told me as a young girl. I also spoke to him about the expression that when you got lemons in life, you made lemonade. He laughed. He agreed to come into the pool, and wouldn’t you know it, at that moment the snack bar opened. Lesson learned for Mom too. I had been starting to get angry and lose my temper that he was being ungrateful. We both had an awakening to living in the moment and enjoying what came our way.
The important lesson here is that our Exceptional Kids, like all kids, can teach us how to become more open, more fun, more in the moment if we let them. I have also learned, and am still learning, how to practice more self-care for myself during the time Michael is home full-time with me. I used to try and do ten thousand things with him, get resentful that I was exhausted, and burn out really badly then bemoan the fact that he was not in summer camp. I realize now that unless he wanted that, there is no reason not to enjoy our time home together if it is structured, both with mother/son time, alone time for him and I, and down time. As Michael gets older he is learning the value of this, and it is also easier to go out in public with him. He understands that I have to get home to cook, clean, work. He is really good about the fact I work from home writing, editing and coaching. He understands that Mom’s job hours are flexible which makes for some juggling, but we all work around them. I also remind myself to juggle responsibly so I don’t neglect my work, my health and my family. There are times things slide more in one direction than another. No human being is perfect, but I right the balance and move on.
Exceptional Parents, how many moments do you miss of venturing into the unknown with your Exceptional Child? How many times are you scared to try it as you don’t know where it will lead? Are you afraid how your child will handle it? Are you afraid of how you will handle it? Don’t be afraid. Take a chance. Go on an adventure. Be open to whatever life throws your way. Make the best of a situation that is not going well and turn it around as best as you can. If not, chalk it down to an experience and a lesson learned. Remember, each time you try something new with your child, do not be afraid to tune into their vibe and interest. It is an opportunity to bridge the gap between their world and yours. Until next time.
I am a writer, speaker and parent coach whose son with autism has shown me a whole new way to see the world and embrace the joy of the moment! I believe in empowering parents to trust their own instincts when it comes to their children, and in helping them parent with love, respect and confidence towards their child.
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