I have been reading a great book lately given to me by a dear friend, “Simple Abundance-A Daybook of Comfort and Joy,” by Sarah Ban Breathnach. In it are wonderful morsels of information for all women on how to live a more balanced, mindful existence. This is all great in theory for so many, but how do we practice being more mindful in every day life in order to be more open to the people and the opportunities around us? It’s not easy, but like everything we are teaching our Exceptional Child, we pace ourselves one step at a time. Each day is a little nugget of information that offers wonderful tips on how women can connect to their inner selves by the simple acts of when they are cooking, gardening, and in the last few days, finding time for solitude and hobbies. Yeah right, you’re probably thinking now. I’ll have time for solitude and a hobby when the kids are grown up, the house is fixed up, and I don’t have to juggle work, cleaning a home and caring for family. We all say this. I said it many times. But it is possible to carve out time for you. It is also necessary for your vitality and survival.
The last page I read talks about making a list of things that fill you with passion and deciding on one from that list that you will practice as a hobby a week from the time you read that page. Wow. This is something that I have been itching to do, but have been making excuses. Why? Fear. But my new motto for the remainder of 2017 has been a great quote from Brene Brown, “Courage through vulnerability.” Another quote I have been saying to myself is “feel the fear and do it anyway.” You’ll be happy you did. You’ll be happy you carved out time for you. I see Michael drawing, painting, dabbling in making bracelets. I see how he doesn’t care if he is good or not. He is enjoying the process. As adults we have forgotten that. In trying to teach our children the basics, we forget about doing things for the pleasure and happiness it gives us, not just to do it right. Today Exceptional Moms and Dads, we need to replenish our parenting batteries by finding some time to set aside for a hobby, anything that fills us with pleasure. It will make a huge difference in how we parent, he we feel and and how we live. If you are in the early stages of handling your child’s autism diagnosis, it is a very difficult and stressful stage. Some time doing a hobby like drawing, painting, writing a poem, or creating anything, can be the breath of fresh air, even if you can only squeeze in a few minutes here or there. For parents later on in the journey as your child progresses, it is so important to maintain your individuality separate from your child so that they do not feel you are living for them and they for you. You are two separate beings who love each other, but have lives and interests outside each other.
Exceptional Parents, do you practice a hobby and spend time alone whenever you can? Remember, as hard as it is, it is vital for your spirit and overall health. The person that is fully charged, excited about life and living their life with passion in every way, is the best example for their Exceptional Child on how to live life fully and in the moment. Until next time.
I am a writer, speaker and parent coach whose son with autism has shown me a whole new way to see the world and embrace the joy of the moment! I believe in empowering parents to trust their own instincts when it comes to their children, and in helping them parent with love, respect and confidence towards their child.
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