So today was a bit of a rediscovery for Michael’s Dad and I. We had a long period of time when we were together late this afternoon at a spa and then out for dinner and talking at home after dinner. Uninterrupted talk that does not center on Michael is very difficult indeed for us, as is finding activities to do as a couple when Michael is absent from home for a long period. This does not happen often in our house, as I imagine it does not happen often in other houses either, especially when there is more than one child. It is complicated for parents to get away and rediscover who they were prior to becoming parents. Michael’s Dad and I are in the process of doing that now. There are ups and downs in the process, and we are excited to embrace the ups and prepared to handle the downs. In the end, the fact that we are having the couple “self-care” discussion is important. Seld-care and couple-care are both integral to how you will handle your relationship with your child and yourself as well as with others.
Michael’s Dad and my partner is not a big spa guy, but for me he went and made the best of it. I love him more than words can say for that. We talked over dinner and wine 🙂 what activities he may be more interested in trying out for our next couple day/evening out. I hope it will be before Michael’s next school camp outing in a year! We will do our best to prioritize it, with securing a sitter so we could perhaps spend a night away somewhere. I know Michael is having fun at his school’s sleep away camp, even before hearing from his teacher and getting great pictures to boot. This makes me realize that Dad and I need to have our own fun too when we can. It makes us better individuals and parents when we are relaxed and feeling well put together. Michael deserves to be happy and so do we as his parents. That is what will make us all handle stress and everything in between so much better.
Exceptional Parents, do you truly make time for self-care and couple care within your family? Remember, you and your partner deserve time alone and together in order to parent at your strongest. Don’t ever be afraid to make plans (even small ones), to prioritize your relationship. If you as adults are strong, it will help build the whole family up. Until next time.