So I can’t believe it. Today is Michael’s 10th birthday. My little baby boy is officially entering into the double digits! I can still remember how I held him briefly in my arms and counted his little fingers and toes before his Dad whisked him away. I had to be sewn up from my C-Section. I could not be more proud of him and his accomplishments, and even with the ups and downs of behavior, I have had so many proud Exceptional Mommy moments. The first one was last year when he began to read by himself and learn to write legibly. The second one, when he began to understand where his emotions were coming from, and how he could feel the tension in his stomach before he erupted. The third thing that stands out is how he is now choosing his friends based on common interests, respect and other regular kid reasons. He is growing up. It is not always easy for him or us, but we are in this life together for a reason. God has a master plan and I am proud to be part of it. I do my best to go along for the ride.
As many other Exceptional Parents have shared with me, our kids make or break us. Most of us are made stronger due to them, both in their times of strength and weakness and our own. It’s impossible not to grow when raising a child that tests all you have as parent and human being. They see right down to your core and beyond. They force you to do that and you grow and figure out what the heck it is this life is supposed to be. That is not always something I see as a gift, especially when I am struggling with redefining who I am, but in actuality it is. It is the closest thing Michael and kids like him have to reading people, as long as they learn to trust their inner compass in a world that does not always get their literalness and need for complete explanations and control. Oh, another thing I am super proud of. Michael’s keen sense of observation. He will see what someone is wearing or doing and comment on it. I am learning how to praise that power of observations while teaching him to keep those details to himself. He may make a fine writer one day, I say. 🙂
Exceptional Parents, what are you most proud of in regards to your Exceptional Children’s accomplishments? They all have talents be it musical, memory, computer, or other. Praise them. Encourage them. Set appropriate and healthy limits. And if you fail, admit it. Tell them what you need to fix to grow. That will continue to help you both grow for the better. Until next time.
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