Day: December 14, 2016

Classical Mommy, Beard Daddy-See Ourselves Through Our Exceptional Son’s Eyes


So the other night at bedtime I was cuddling with Michael, over twelve minute (not five, not ten, but twelve) minute cuddle before I left his room. We were lying side by side and he grabbed me in a hug. Then he said the strangest and cutest thing:

“Mommy, you are a classical Mommy, and Daddy is a beard Daddy.”

Ok Daddy with the beard I got. When he hugs and kisses his Dad he sometimes rubs up against stubbble on Dad’s cheek, but classical Mommy? What did that mean? I asked him.

“It means classical. You help people Mommy. You help Mommies and Daddies and kids with autism.”

My eyes welled up with tears and I hugged him back hard while my own heart soared. He understood what I was trying to do with my coaching and writing.  He understood how I wanted to help people and give back to others what had been given to me; hope, community and belief again in myself as a good parent with a child who simply thinks outside the box and needs special guidance. He would lead me if I let him.

“Will you always help me Mommy?”

“Always buddy.”

“I love you too Mommy. You’re the best Mommy I ever had.”

Then we did our usual ten minute good night kiss (he is ever the lovey dovey one at bedtime) then he asked me where I would be, upstairs on the couch or downstairs working. Most of the time he knows what the answer is.

“Downstairs  working buddy.”

“You’re going to do your blog?”

“Yes, honey.”

We said our good nights and off I went to work while Michael went to bed. As I made my way downstairs to my home office I started thinking about all the changes I’ve been noticing in Michael. He is becoming even more observant about the details of my life and his Dad’s. He is picking up nuances in conversations, (ones he is supposed to overhear and those he is not). Dad and I have to be really careful. And he is becoming a really thoughtful young man in the way he expresses himself and his caring ways towards his friends. We do have to deal with some insensitive  feelings he doesn’t always realize he is displaying, but we understand that it comes with the territory of having  confused social understandings sometimes about people and occasions. We are handling it.

Seeing his displaying this kind of maturity though, knowing his own mind so clearly, whether he is happy or upset, is really inspiring for me. On the days when he and I struggle, I remember how smart and special my little guy is and know that whatever he will do one day in the world it will be an incredible contribution.

Exceptional Parents, how many times have your Exceptional Children amazed you with things they’ve said or come up with? Our children have such a unique view and vision of the world. It’s important we encourage their unique mind and what comes out of it. They will do amazing things and constantly surprise us and the world if we show them how cool we know they are. Until next time.

am a writer and parent coach at “Exceptional Parenting/Exceptional Balance.” I am passionate about empowering parents to trust their own instinct when raising their exceptional children with autism, and remembering that parenthood is as much a journey for us as childhood is for our children. You can follow me on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Instagram, and GooglePlus. For more information on my parent coaching programs, and to book a FREE 30 Minute Consultation, see my website: http://www.exceptionalparenting.n

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