So we have started renovating our main bathroom, a huge task long in coming. As I’ve told friends it is exciting and terrifying all the same. It is a great step for us to be taking, but a big step, a huge one. I am someone that has always disliked change, but am starting to rally myself to changing and throwing things up in the air. How else do I expect Michael to learn to navigate change? As I predicted this morning when the workers arrived at 7:00 am, in preparation my little budding teenager who normally has a hard time rising for school at 7:30 am was up and at ’em at 5:30 am! Yep. There pretty much went my meditation, yoga and workout. And yes, he was silly and cute at first when the workers arrived. He tried to show them “Buddy the Elf” who is visiting our house for the Christmas season (creepy little guy, but that is another blog post), and then resorted to trying to “help” the men do the removal of the old structures in the bathroom. Oh boy. Let’s just say that it was one of those mornings that I wished I could add something like Bailey’s to my coffee.
Suffice it to say, I was calm, firm, and we established a routine of tea and talking until it was mercifully time to go out and wait for the bus. Never had two hours passed so slowly before! When he came home, Michael was quite excited to see the demolition job and to ask questions about what was coming in the following weeks. We are looking forward to wrapping this up before Christmas with a big red bow. He was understandably nervous about the men coming to our house, what the bathroom would look like, but was super excited when he found out he could use the bathtub again when all of this was done. For the last year and a half he’s been relegated to boring showers in our en-suite shower stall! I was proud of how he is trying to come to terms with change, navigating his way through difficulties, all the while having issues with blocking out negative behavior around him, testing his boundaries with us, and learning to control himself when his temper flares. We seem to be back on track after a very rough few days last week, and there will be more changes coming in the new year in our life and possibly in Michael’s.
I am learning how to take it one day at a time, stay positive and count our blessings, and just in general not be afraid to lose faith in dreams coming true, all dreams.This is hard when times are tough emotionally, financially, and in marital relationships, but it is do-able. Dad and I are always honest with Michael that we too get scared, make mistakes, have regrets. All we could do though, is to wipe the sleight clean and move forward positively.
Exceptional Parents, how does change affect you and your Exceptional Children? Is is super hard for them or are they less rigid? What about for you? The trick to breaking down rigidity and fear is to learn to make small sustainable changes over time. Don’t make excuses if you mess up. Own it and move on. But, be gentle with yourself. We’ve all had moments we regret. Learn that you can grow from those moments into something bigger and better and so can your child. Until next time.
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