New Mom Lessons-When To Nudge Your Child Forward and When To Hold Back

So Michael has been feeling overwhelmed lately, to say the least. He asked me the other day for “no more work on the weekends.” He wants to do only sports. I had the embarrassing task (well, embarrassing to me), to call up his tutoring teacher and our church and pulling him out of both activities. They are too much book and work for him now, and church, well, that is a whole other ball game. He started questioning God and anything religious last year. This year we are talking to him about God and I will start reading books with him on our own at home in a non-threatening way.

When he was younger, even back to two years ago, I knew when to nudge or push him forward. I would meet with resistance, but I would gently persist and it worked out. So, this Spring when I met with some resistance over the two work related extracurricular activities, I imagined this was the same thing. He resisted and was annoyed, but I thought I convinced him and off we were. Until September. It’s been a rough one for him and us. Michael has had wonderful moments of laughing and learning,  and not so wonderful moments of anger, anxiety and stress. I realized he had too much on his plate and we had to scale back. I also know though, that he is testing me like any kid does, but in an intense way. He is telling school what he is doing at home. It’s good we are working together on TEAM MICHAEL to make things easier, at least in the long run. Our exceptional children are so smart, but they need to learn boundaries for their own mental and physical safety.

Exceptional Parents, what boundaries, physical and otherwise, have you had to set for your Exceptional Children? How have they been testing you and their teachers if at all? All I know is that listening to our children, particularly listening to what they are NOT saying or by their actions, is even more important as they get older. They change. What they perceive as stressful changes too as their awareness changes. Parents need to respect that, and have their kids respect parental boundaries too. All in a day’s work. Until next time.

 

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