The other night Michael had trouble sleeping again. It wasn’t so far fetched as he had a big event the next day (his first ever dance concert in his dance program), and this is usually when his night fears come out. It was a difficult early morning rousing for all of us, but in the end, Michael did manage to sleep a few winks as did Mom and Dad. It was challenging though, for me to keep my patience with Michael while fighting tiredness and the returning of bad sleep habits. There was lots of back and forth, and then Dad fortunately heard the start of anger in my impatient voice and took over with helping Michael use his newly learned strategies. We did amazing couple tag teaming, and the next morning that came WAY too early we spoke of what worked, what didn’t, and why Michael had the issues he did.
I was worried that Michael would be left with no confidence in himself that he had these fears. He kept repeating he is not proud of himself that he couldn’t handle the night fears, and it broke my heart. He was me many many years ago, until I found my formula. But, the good news is that Michael surprised me the next day by saying he learned what he could do differently the next time and what he could change. My little guy is growing up, and I am growing wiser too. Michael helped me see that I don’t always have to do things alone. I can rely on Dad to help me and him out if I wearing thin. We all worked as the tag teaming duo, and though it was tiring for us that day, we had a good day as a family. It showed me that what I tell Michael in the day is true at night too-you can still turn it around.
Exceptional Parents, what do you need to turn around in your parenting for your selves or your child? What can you learn from past mistakes or moments of weakness? Our Exceptional Children are our greatest teachers. We need to be honest, look at the messages we are sending out to them, and most importantly, learn together how to handle stress and fears at all times of day and night. It will help us grow as people on the inside and out. Until next time.