Well, even for us, it was not a “typical” weekend, but it ended on a really good note. There were three new things happening this weekend which concerned me on one level, but I knew would probably work out well. The first one was Michael’s first drop off, pick up party. He did fabulously as we knew he would, but you still worry. You particularly worry when all the kids at the party have special needs and the Mom and Dad are on their own. But they had our cell numbers and it worked out. Second thing that worked out was the visit to meet the camp director from the second day camp Michael will be attending this summer. As with all who meet him, Michael charmed the heck out of the guy. And though the morning started off rocky, seeing Michael in action with the camp director began to turn the Mother’s Day around for me. The third wonderful thing? Seeing Michael play tennis like a pro! I could not have been more proud of him. I made some mistakes this weekend as a Mom. I didn’t sleep or take as good care of myself up until this weekend. I didn’t communicate as well with Dad as to how tired and stressed I’ve been feeling lately. But, seeing Michael thriving with strangers shows me, I’m doing something right with him. I’m a good Mom. Not perfect, but doing the best darn job I can.
Motherhood is hard work. It truly tests every bit of will you have. And I don’t have to tell the parents of exceptional children that our kids know our triggers that much more, they throw us in the fire and look to see what we will make of it, both out of fear of their own limitations and just plain old kid testing. You’ve got to be ready with everything you’ve got. You’ve also got to cut yourself some slack when it comes to being a Mom. You’ll win some, you’ll lose some. Tomorrow’s another day. We had our ups and downs on Mother’s Day, but I always look to the ups and learn from the downs. It’s the only way to move forward mindfully.
Exceptional Moms, how did this year’s Mother’s Day measure up for you and your Exceptional Child/dren? What did you learn from the day? What were yours and your child’s victories? The most important thing to remember is that each day is a new day for growth, learning and getting better. Never give up on yourself. Never give up on your child. Love and being gentle with those you care about will always see you through anything. Until next time.