It’s almost here, the end of year holidays, Christmas, Hanukah, Kwanza, and the celebration of a New Year. No matter how you celebrate, chances are you will be celebrating A LOT with family and friends and it will be a busy and fun time. But there will be moments when it will be hard on you as an Exceptional Parent and your child as an Exceptional Child. Your child will inevitably get overstimulated, overtired and have a meltdown here or there and so will you. It has happened at our house plenty of times. How can you stop this from occurring? Well, what’s worked for me is having a schedule which we all do our best to adhere to with activities etc., going over ways to calm down when everyone is indeed calm, and for you Moms and Dads out there, pre-holiday Self-Care Rituals.
It doesn’t have to be anything fancy. It can be a stroll through a bookstore and a coffee afterwards, a simple lunch in or out with friends, or one of my favorites, a massage or spa experience. Now this doesn’t have to break the bank. I am lucky that I have a close friend who is a massotherapist and she offers great specials, but there are also other options. I just purchased not too long ago a spa gift card with points earned on my credit card. It is enough for two Hamamm Experiences at this local spa, equipped with the full circuit of hot and cold shower, sauna, and whirlpool jacuzzi. It was a little lonely going alone, but my body and brain needed the water. It has always been a way for me to disconnect and recharge. I went for an hour and a half. It was worth it. I felt such rejuvenation in my body mind and spirit immediately afterwards and my week, though busy and stressful at times, has been going well and I have felt in control of managing myself.
I cant’ stress enough how important it is to make that “you” time prior to the start of the holidays. You’ll have more patience with yourself, your child and your whole family. Life will be a little less crazy if you make the time to be still and quiet, not because it’s less crazy, but because you become less crazy. I’ve once again been taught this lesson thanks to Michael. Kids have ways of forcing us to learn to slow down for everyone’s mental and physical health. And don’t forget that kids too live in the moment, and regularly check in with themselves whether they know it or not. This is what helps them enjoy life and have fun, and what could help us do the same thing. Until next time.