So last week was one of the toughest weeks of the summer for me. There have been meltdowns, aggression, anxieties, mine and Michael’s, and I thought I was handling it all fairly well. Until I didn’t. Then all hell broke loose on Friday. If there was a list of what NOT TO DO as a Mom, I did it and it showed. Both Michael and I were angry, frustrated, and when his father came home, he had to pick up the pieces. Sitting outside in the backyard decompressing after a very bad afternoon, I thought back to what I could have done differently to have turned things around with Michael last week, even a little. More importantly, I thought of what I could now do differently and learn from my mistakes as I always tell Michael he could do. We’ve all been there as Moms of any child. But with an Exceptional Child, I believe you need to have the tools near at hand to diffuse temperamental situations, both for you and your child. So without further ado, here is the list I came up with to help overloaded Exceptional Moms cope with theirs and their children’s wild emotions:
5 Ways To Help Overloaded Exceptional Moms Handle Exceptional Stress:
1) Take 10-15 minutes a day of to mediate or have quiet “you” time. I cannot stress how important this is. I haven’t been doing it, and ended up crashing quite dramatically. This means have quiet time doing nothing. It doesn’t have to be long, just enough to catch your breath. You’ll feel better knowing you’re giving this time to yourself. Read a favorite magazine, listen to music, or call a friend and have a catch up call.
2) Do something fun with your partner or friends that has nothing to do with your child. Connect with your inner adult by going out with your partner, friends or for an evening of fun at an adult style comedy or music festival.
3) Journal or write about your mistakes and victories. I’ve started doing this again, writing poetry, my thoughts, my ups and downs.
4) Make a point to spend time outside in nature once a day. Even 10-15 minutes can help. After working in the late afternoon and then having a glass of wine in the backyard or with my morning coffee after breakfast in the front, I like to have it outside. Even if I am waiting for Michael to get ready inside and on the lookout for the camp bus, this counts as “outdoor time.”
5) Ask your partner, family or friends to take over with your child at designated times of the day. If you’re lucky, make it for an hour or two, but I’ve found even having a half hour “Off Duty” from exceptional child care, makes a difference in my mental state. My wonderful husband agreed to two nights a week of taking over the bedtime routine.
Once again, I have Michael to thank for reminding me to observe the 5 points above. I haven’t been lately, as old “super Mom” habits die hard, but last week I was given a big wake-up call. And this time I’m listening God, universe, readers. I hope you are too. I would be so happy to know that other Moms could benefit from my mistakes.
How have your Exceptional Children helped you see your shortcomings and grow? It’s always important to learn from our mistakes, and to grow as human beings. In that way, we can show our children the true meaning of becoming the best people they can be. Until next time.