“When I was little, I used to live with Uncle Paul. He would take me to my swimming and soccer. I lived there when I was a baby, and then I came to you.”
I have not known what to make of Michael’s latest memories. He would recount to me stories that happened with me or his father and relate them back to my brother. He’d be smiling, and I think he knew that it was partially fiction, the part about living as a baby with my brother, but the rest happened. I think it is his way of making sense of his life and things I have told him of my life as a child. He is doing this more and more, and talking about extended family members in this way. I think it is sweet, and is giving me more of a glimpse into his amazing mind and what it can do. Like a lot of children on the spectrum, he is very intuitive and really in sync with his sixth sense. He knew a friend of mine was pregnant before we told him, he talks about memories from very early on in his baby years with accuracy, and his memory for song lyrics, directions, and people’s names and faces are phenomenal.
Every day I get another glimpse into what makes my exceptional son tick, as he is getting more and more verbal. It’s been wonderful. He has also taught me that what are memory strengths in some, are memory weaknesses in others. He is having so much trouble learning how to write and form letters, whereas for me that was easy as a child. But for me, I still have challenges reading maps, whereas for Michael that is child’s play, no pun intended. 🙂 Having an exceptional child whose brain is wired differently, really has gotten me to see that intelligence needs to be measured on many levels. We all have our strengths and weaknesses, and it’s important to work on the weaknesses, but play up the strengths that we all have. This will help us become the best people we could be.
What are your strengths Exceptional Moms? What do you need to work on in your own life to get the desired outcome you want of a life of balance? Think about it, and remember, while you are advocating for your child’s possibilities and happiness in this world, you are also advocating for your own. That is one of the gifts our exceptional children have given us. Until next time.