Day: April 24, 2015

How the Past Defines Our Present

Lately Michael has been asking a lot of questions about when he was a baby, where he went to school, how he felt, what he did. I talk about this in another blog post as well, where he is fascinated to look at pictures of his life at this time. This morning over breakfast he wanted to know which daycares he had gone to as a child, what had happened, and then he started talking about his current school and after-school care program. We talked some more about this outside as he waited for the bus.

“I like going to school Mommy and daycare, but I like coming home to you too. ” Ahhh. It was one of those sweet moments.

This got me thinking about how I reminisced about school when I was a kid, where I went, my friends there, and how I think back to the good, and sometimes not so good, memories. I usually focus more on the good memories though, and am teaching Michael to do the same. We both had plenty of them and made lots of friends along the way. This also got me thinking how our past defines us, defines how we see ourselves in relation to others, the good and bad, how we learn, how we make sense of our world. If we have supportive family to help us sort through some of the difficult moments, it makes it all that much smoother. I was lucky to have that and still do, and I know Michael has that too. His father and I are always trying to guide him how to be himself, share his best gifts with the world, and make sure that he is in a nurturing positive environment in school which he definitively is in.

How do you talk to your Exceptional Children about their past Exceptional Moms, and about your own? How do they talk about school and friends, or think about it? Is there a positive dialogue, good memories? If there are some bad memories, can you talk to them about that too and show them how far they’ve come from that rough time? This is a tool I use for Michael and for me. It reminds me that the path I’ve traveled on has been rocky, still is at times, but with looking back at what I did right and wrong, I can make the present and future better and be a stronger person. It’s a great lesson to share with our loved ones. Until next time.