Hi again Moms. I know you’ve all been there. You and the rest of your family get to a destination with your son/daughter who has autism or another type of special need and the process has gone smoothly up until this point. Everyone got ready calmly, left the house on time, and now you have arrived as a family and are excited and think, today NOTHING will go wrong. Of course, it’s just when you think those words, that KAPOW everything goes wrong and spectacularly so! I have often told my husband don’t say all is fine until the event is over. I don’t think I’m being negative, but I truly believe that if we as parents think this, we let our guards down, our kids who are already anxious see that, and act out. Or else the little buggers are taking advantage of us, and don’t tell me kids with autism can’t! They are as smart as their neuro-typical peers, I tell you. Anyway, so this is what I now do and wanted to share this list with other Moms out there. It surprisingly works most of the time, and when it doesn’t, we leave in a flurry of noise and stress, but then that would have happened anyway if things went wrong, right?
3 THINGS I MAKE SURE MY SON KNOWS HE HAS TO DO TO HAVE A SUCCESSFUL OUTING AS A FAMILY: (I MAKE HIM REPEAT THEM BACK SO WE’RE CLEAR):
1) STAY CLOSE TO MOMMY AND DADDY AND LISTEN.
2) NO SCREAMING, TALKING IN A LOUD VOICE OR RUNNING.
3) KEEP MY HANDS AND FEET TO MYSELF.
And if this doesn’t happen, he knows the verdict. We leave immediately. It has worked well overall. It only happened once I had to leave a children’s clothing store because he was acting up. He cried the whole way to the car and asked for another chance to go back. So far that hasn’t happened, but he’s been doing very well in grocery stores, the library and a bookstore near our house. So we’ll have to see. Consistency is something I’m learning really is key with all kids, but with ours ESPECIALLY.