Day: November 29, 2014

Great Quotes That I Love

Here are some great quotes that I love, that inspire me, and that I couldn’t resist sharing. They help me get through the hard times.

“What you are is God’s gift to you. What you become, is your gift to God.” Hans Von Balthasa

“Listen to yourself, and in that quietude, you might hear the voice of God.” Maya Angelou’s last words.

“The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.” Ancient Chinese proverb.

Here is an amazing poem by Derek Walcott that I first heard of through Oprah Winfrey. And as she suggested, it is up in my bathroom wall: 🙂 I think its message to anyone is clear, but I can specifically see the message to all Moms, particularly those with special needs children. There comes a moment when you arrive and can look at the real authentic you in the mirror. For me, that moment is here!

“Love After Love”

The time will come
when, with elation
you will greet yourself arriving
at your own door, in your own mirror
and each will smile at the other’s welcome,

and say, sit here. Eat.
You will love again the stranger who was your self.
Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heart
to itself, to the stranger who has loved you

all your life, whom you ignored
for another, who knows you by heart.
Take down the love letters from the bookshelf,

the photographs, the desperate notes,
peel your own image from the mirror.
Sit. Feast on your life.

by Derek Walcott

“Actually, I Don’t Think So, Put A Dent In It”- Paraphrasing Mom

I’m so proud of how much language Michael is absorbing these days. But he really is like a parrot, I have to say. You must be careful what you say around him. I use the words “Actually, I don’t believe so, or do that etc” and Michael has now started imitating me. It’s quite funny. I’ll ask him something and he’ll say “Actually I don’t think so, Mommy” with a big smile on his face. Another favorite of mine when I want him to eat more: “Come on Michael, put a dent in it.” And the other day after finishing his whole plate guess what he said: “Look Mommy, I put a dent in it.” He pointed to his empty plate with pride. Sigh.  Well, if anything, this is showing me how to set a good example around him, and as they say, ‘little pitchers have big ears.’ 🙂

“Mommy, You’re My Best Friend, and I Love Coming Home To You”

Sometimes the repetitious like questions and play are a little exhausting and worrying when you have a special needs child. Don’t get me wrong. I thank God everyday that my son Michael can communicate with me and my family, that he asks questions and is curious about his world. But I also worry how I can redirect him when he is doing repetitive things. As parents, we are told by so many therapists that you want to break in on thoughts or patterns done over and over or the brain connections will set that way. No one wants that for any child, but especially for a child with developmental and intellectual delays who experiences above normal levels of stress and anxiety which is essentially what autism is. However, as I’ve said many times before to friends and family, life is never dull with Michael. If anything, I never know what he’ll remember or ask me about until he does it. Then it’s a matter of it coming up many many times, but that’s just part of who he is and what life is like for someone with autism. On one particularly tiring day of having him ask me which way his bus driver would be taking to get him to school, would he take the service road or the longer way, he all of a sudden turned to me and said: “Mommy you’re my best friend.” I melted and then began hugging and kissing him repeating those same things back to him. And then, just when I thought he couldn’t get any sweeter or clearer in expressing his emotions, something that is very hard for people with autism, he said: “I love coming home to you Mommy.” It’s moments like these that put the meltdowns, the anxiety and  fears in perspective. I’m sure all you exceptional Moms have had experiences like this that make you see how truly unique your children are! I’d love to hear about them!